One of the biggest things we struggle with as mothers is balance. We need to be giving so much of ourselves to our children and significant others, then add a job or side hustle, pets, and taking care of a house – when can we possibly find time to take care of ourselves? Keep in mind, mamas, you can do it all, just not all at once.
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It’s important to remember that while I truly do believe you can do it all (whatever your “all” is), you can’t do it all at once. There are days when I am on my game and not only make dinner for the family, but also clean up afterwards, get clean sheets on the bed, and enjoy the bath & bed routine, but often on those nights I don’t get my blog post for the next day done. Or, I may make a big push when it comes to blogging or my other side hustles, but dinner that night is carry out.
What we ask of ourselves also needs to be based on what stage of life we are in. When I was pregnant with #babyd2, I was able to get a mile per day, and often another short workout in, each night, because #babyD slept like a champ. These days, it’s been more difficult for me to workout in the evenings as we deal with two little ones (albeit still good sleepers) who seem to be getting sick, teething, or going through a growth spurt at any given time.
Here are some of my tips for getting more done each day:
1): Keep the behind-the-scenes chores going. If you’re anything like me, there is always laundry to be done. One easy way to get more done throughout the day is to keep laundry going. I like to start a load in the morning, right before we leave for work, put it into the dryer (and start another load) at lunchtime, and then maybe knock another load out in the evening. Also, taking 5 minutes to unload the dishwasher in the morning lets you throw the breakfast dishes and coffee mugs into the dishwasher before leaving the house – making it more pleasant to come home in the evening and move forward with making dinner. Oh, and start the dishwasher when you go to bed.
2): Use your downtime productively. One of the ways hubby and I enjoy relaxing after a long day of work is to watch a couple of episodes of our favorite tv shows (right now we’re going back through The West Wing). While it is necessary to take some time to decompress, after you’ve done so, think about whether there’s something you can be doing while you’re watching tv. Let’s be honest, not many tv shows these days require a lot of brain power. Re-connecting with friends, reaching out to potential clients, getting social media posts scheduled, or responding to comments are all activities that can be done while the tv is going in the background. (Make sure to communicate with your significant other, though, so he or she doesn’t feel neglected.)
3): Consider multi-tasking. If you’re getting your workout in on the treadmill or elliptical, you can be listening to audio books or podcasts. You can also use the time while you’re washing dishes or cleaning the house to do the same thing. Commutes are also ideal times to get your “reading” in.
4): Give yourself grace. You have a lot going on in your life – whatever phase of life you are in. Raising children, growing a business, keeping a house running – these things take a great deal of time and effort. Wherever you are in your life, know that you are doing your best, and give yourself a break on the things that don’t matter. Get done what you can each day, and then get a good night of sleep. There’s no need to be worrying about those things that you weren’t able to cross off your to-do list. There will be time tomorrow to get more things done.